Dirty Little Check List

Hi there mighty entrepreneurial sister… Here’s a quick, down and dirty check list to gather more confidence at any moment.

My top 15 are:

  1. Think about someone who is confident and act, talk and walk like him or her. Model their mannerisms and behavior. It works for them; it will work for you.
  1. Smile a lot more. That doesn’t mean putting a silly grin on your face! But smile when you talk with your employees or walk down the street. Do this even if you’re not feeling that way.
  1. Learn from the past; don’t beat yourself up about it. It’s gone; it’s never coming back. Instead learn from it for next time.
  1. Get prepared! Are you prepared enough to meet any challenge that may come up? Are you prepared for that meeting, that presentation, that job interview, when you meet someone for the first time? If not, get to it!
  1. Play to your strengths. Know what you’re good at and expose yourself to these opportunities as often as possible.
  1. Learn how to say no to people. Don’t be afraid, you’ve got nothing to be afraid of. Come from a place of love and watch the reaction on their face after you’ve said it the first time and there’ll be no going back.
  1. Be aware. Practice being present in this moment right now!!
  1. Be in charge of your thoughts at all times. What is a thought you ask? Well, it’s just a question that you’ve asked yourself and the thought is you’re answer. If you allow yourself to change the way you think, change the way you look at things, perceive things or recognize things or people, the things and people you look at will, by default change.


  1. Do you let the words of others affect you? Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem, it’s what you say to yourself after they have stopped talking, that’s the problem. See # 8
  1. List the words that you use on a consistent basis when you feel let down or annoyed. People use different words to mean the same thing and depending upon the intensity of the word – this will have an effect on your confidence. Instead of saying “I’m enraged about this” say, “I’m a little annoyed”. Make a substitute list for the words that you use. Make sure they’re lower in intensity and then use them. You’ll be surprised with the results.
  1. Be appreciative of what you have to be thankful for in your life right now. Who do you love? Who loves you? Who do you help out?
  1. Every morning when you’re in the shower, play over in your head the events in the day as though they have already happened and they were a success. Visualize all of the meetings that you had, the people you talked to, the outcomes you had. Visualize success and confidence and it will be so.


  1. Emotion is created by motion. Make sure you take breaks and get moving. This creates energy and gets the blood pumping around your body.


  1. Learn to brag about yourself. Yes, you heard me! Talk about your achievements and successes more than you currently are.
  1. You only live once and you’re on stage now. At any time that you’re blue just ask yourself in 10 or 20 years down the road – will what I’m worrying about really matter?

communicating from the heart,

Sharon Kay

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